Whether your child is 6 weeks or 16 months, at some point, you will more than likely have to stay apart from them and it’s not any easier at any age. Last night was my first night away from my youngest daughter who is 9 months old and it was a little rough for the both of us but we made it through. Here are a few things that helped me throughout the first night:
- Rest- I didn’t realize the full extent of my sleep deprivation until I was completely knocked out and asleep on the plane. Just taking a moment to sleep in peace without having to mentally think about what you have to do felt great. Much more of that will definitely be in the plans.
- Check-in- When I get the urge to see or speak with my children, I call (or text). More so for Ariah since it’s her first time away. I know Alana is having the time of her life with all of her favorites (family, food, snacks, and new toys) with her.
- Spend quality time- with my hubby. We are together for an incredible experience and it’s important for me to be present and enjoy it. We danced, laughed, talked, toured the property, ate dinner and dessert, and of course, talked about our beautiful children that we are so blessed to have.
- Relax- we were literally walking around the property when I spotted a hammock swing chair (me pictured in one at the top). I’m not sure who thought of this creation but it is the absolute BEST EVER! I sat in one and literally stayed there for over an hour just relaxing, listening to the sounds of the ocean and the quiet jazz, and taking a moment to just breathe.
- Release- I had to cry it out to get over the original anxiety and then I needed to let go of the guilt that we can sometimes feel for taking the time to take care of ourselves. And of course you knew at some point I would Relax, Relate and Release (see previous blog post on the topic).
- Pump and Pray- every time I engaged in my routine pumping time, I also took that opportunity to pray. I prayed for my children while separated from us (Ariah’s first time separated from me), safe travels, an enjoyable vacation, and the five years of our marriage that we are so grateful to celebrate.
- Take it all in- taking it all in and admiring the beauty of the property. Post coming soon of our beautiful anniversary location.
Enjoying the time! Xoxo